I totally agree with you. Lego (and especially technic) is more about building than playing for me. I think I spend about 90% of my lego time with building. It happened that I was building something for hours, it worked as expected, but I took it apart after a few minutes play and started building something else.
8043 is a good example. To be honest I was surprised how much people were complaining about the performance of the model (some of them even marked the set as the worst set ever). I think those who has some experience with technic, and saw the building instructions on the lego website for the excavator didn't expect a big performance. Even with the weak performance of the A model the set is still quite appealing to me. Lot's of useful parts, interesting and challenging A model with good ideas, and a well performing B model. So all of these problems around the performance of the A model didn't change my mind and I still want to buy it as soon as possible. I think the main problem with the 8043 set is that lego advertised the excavator as a very powerful toy, which it isn't obviously. Some quotes from their promotional video: "you control the power", "operate the giant arm! and the powerful bucket", and one sentence from their website: "No construction project is too big for this heavy-duty excavator!"