Try this: 08 00 45 <PORT> <COLOR CODE> <DISTANCE> <LED COLOR> <REFLECTED LIGHT>.
<COLOR CODE> is a value 0 to 10, same as mode 0
<DISTANCE> is a value 0 to 10, same as mode 1; there are no units of measurement here since using IR to measure distance is not that accurate
<LED COLOR> is a value 0 to 10, same as mode 5; this value is write-only, so reading it returns -1; only red/green/blue (9/5/3) are valid values for setting the LED color, anything else will turn off the LED
<REFLECTED LIGHT> is a value 0 to 100, same as mode 3
Basically, this mode (8) looks like a way to read multiple values more efficiently than using each mode individually. Because of this, the color of the LED in this mode is not as "pure" as other modes (and "off" is not completely off) since it is constantly switching modes.
When writing to the sensor using this mode, you still need to specify the 4 data values. Only the 3rd one <LED COLOR> is actually used. The others are ignored (so just set them to 0).